You are not alone! We offer help for those who have been through a romantic relationship with a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath, which are popular terms for those with what we call Low Conscience Externalizing Disorders. You probably feel isolated in your experience. Even well-meaning friends and family don’t completely get it. We can help you gain clarity and stop blaming yourself, and work toward healing the damage and regaining your lost self.
It is a relationship in which one of the partners is being psychologically, physically, financially, sexually, or otherwise exploited and/or victimized to meet the needs/desires of the low-conscience externalizing partner. It is a relationship with someone with qualities that make the relationship damaging, i.e. destructive, to their partners. Those qualities are:
If you are in a relationship with a destructive partner, you will begin to break down in a number of ways. You will slowly over time lose yourself, as you learn that aspects of you or your emotional needs are dismissed, not tolerated, or are met with an angry response. You may experience physical, verbal, or sexual abuse. You may experience a financial drain on your resources. At the very least, you will find out that that seemingly perfect person who presented themselves to you at the beginning of the relationship was a front, or false self, and has turned into a hostile, conniving, and/or deceitful person. You will feel more stress and anxiety over time in the relationship, which will manifest in more physical symptoms and illness, psychological distress, confusion, depression, anxiety, panic, insomnia, loss of energy, loss of focus. You are likely to feel increasingly debilitated, and wonder what happened to the strong, confident person you started out as in this relationship. At the extreme, people have described this as feeling as if they are “falling apart”, or “dying.”
You may at some point be shocked and traumatized to find that the person you thought loved you clearly does not and never has. You may find the person has been leading a double life – perhaps having other women or men, lying about their occupation, income, past, sexual orientation, even their identity. When your world shatters, you will experience Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, which is further debilitating. You will likely be confused, and wonder what to believe and what to do. And, if you have children together, your path is even harder to navigate.
If you are a partner of a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath, you will need support to find the self you lost, to gain clarity and gather strength to figure out your next move, and to find your life again. You will need support (and possibly therapy) to heal Post Traumatic Stress. You will need to hear stories of others who have been or are going through the same experiences, to affirm that you are not crazy and you are not alone. Your friends and family, even your therapist, may not understand what you’ve been going through. But, those who have lived your unique situation do understand.
Free Online Support Group – For those who do not have access to a live group, we offer a twice monthly online video/voice (your choice) virtual group. Click here online support group to find the date of the next scheduled online group. Use contact form to get instructions on how to join.
No support groups in your area? Start your own! We offer a guidebook that can help you every step of the way, but we will help with whatever you need with or without the guidebook.
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Individual Help Sessions – Individual professional therapy sessions or consultations are available and can be covered by your insurance. Find clarity, direction, and healing by a professional with expertise in these types of relationships.
Continuing Education for Professionals – We are participating in providing education for professionals (CEU’s included!) and lay people on these Low-Conscience Disorders through Lovefraud Continuing Education Webinars. Tell your therapist! Click link to Lovefraud.com on Blog page to find out more.
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Mind Warrior App – In the moment tool for mindful connection to emotional reactions, flashbacks, or triggers that make you break No Contact. Resources for emotional regulation, conditioning empowered responses, reconnecting with self, planning positive goals, keeping focused. Email & archive features. Use alone or with therapy.
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