The purpose of Destructive Relationships Help is to help those suffering the effects of being in a relationship with a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath. We do this by offering education so they may gain clarity about the unique type of relationship they are in, and by offering the support they need to heal from it. The group is not-for-profit. The group is confidential and anonymous.
It is a relationship in which one of the partners is being psychologically, physically, financially, sexually, or otherwise compromised or victimized to meet the needs/desires of the other partner. It is a relationship with a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath, all of whom have qualities that make the relationship damaging, i.e. destructive, to their partners. Those qualities are:
If you are in a relationship with a destructive partner, you will begin to break down in a number of ways. You will slowly over time lose yourself, as you learn that aspects of you or your emotional needs are dismissed, not tolerated, or are met with an angry response. You may experience physical, verbal, or sexual abuse. You may experience a financial drain on your resources. At the very least, you will find out that that seemingly perfect person who presented themselves to you at the beginning of the relationship was a front, or false self, and has turned into a hostile, conniving, and/or deceitful person. You will feel more stress and anxiety over time in the relationship, which will manifest in more physical symptoms and illness, psychological distress, confusion, depression, anxiety, panic, insomnia, loss of energy, loss of focus. You are likely to feel increasingly debilitated, and wonder what happened to the strong, confident person you started out as in this relationship. At the extreme, people have described this as feeling as if they are “falling apart”, or “dying.”
You may at some point be shocked and traumatized to find that the person you thought loved you clearly does not and never has. You may find the person has been leading a double life – perhaps having other women or men, lying about their occupation, income, past, sexual orientation, even their identity. When your world shatters, you will experience Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, which is further debilitating. You will likely be confused, and wonder what to believe and what to do. And, if you have children together, your path is even harder to navigate.
If you are a partner of a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath, you will need support to find the self you lost, to gain clarity and gather strength to figure out your next move, and to find your life again. You will need support (and possibly therapy) to heal Post Traumatic Stress. You will need to hear stories of others who have been or are going through the same experiences, to affirm that you are not crazy and you are not alone. Your friends and family, even your therapist, may not understand what you’ve been going through. But, those who have lived your unique situation do understand.
Individual Therapy – Should you feel the need for individual therapy, including help to alleviate the effects of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, where possible we can refer you to a therapist who works with PTSD and destructive relationships.
Online Support Group – We also offer a regular live chat support group for those outside of the area. Click on highlighted text to find the date of the next scheduled chat group, or to join the chat at the scheduled time. You will be brought to the chat room as a Guest#.
Available Now! Continuing Education for Professionals – We are participating in providing CEU’s for professionals through Lovefraud.com. Tell your therapist! To find webinars, click link to Lovefraud.com on Blog page.
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Therapeutic – The professional group leader may at times offer individual therapeutic suggestions or teach therapeutic tools.
Confidentiality – All members agree to confidentiality and anonymity.
Anonymity – First names (or Guest# for online chat) only are used in group to preserve privacy.
Mutual Respect – Every group member is equally respected, and given a chance to speak.
Constructive Feedback – Group members are guided to give feedback in a positive, caring way without judgment, criticism, or preaching.
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